Will You Switch Off?
I was lucky enough this summer amidst the challenges with travel, to get away to Croatia with my family. After such a long period of not getting away I felt like I may have forgotten how to switch off and how to ‘holiday’.
Day one; venturing down to the pool with my book and all of the wonderful paraphernalia that that is taken for a day such as this. The sun was shining, the water was warm and after a short while in the pool with my son I felt a pang of something……. And then a thought entered my head I need to check my phone…….like a strong magnetic pull…. I went into system one* thinking mode climbed out of the pool and began to dive into emails, WhatsApp messages, Viber, LinkedIn, Instagram, the list continues. The most worrying thing was with those 30 minutes I was no longer on holiday I was back in a busy workplace responding to emails and thinking about next step’s and projects ahead in the coming months.
A short sharp burst of Dopamine** no doubt was released as I picked up my phone and it started to take my attention. This phenomenon is well described in a Netflix movie called ‘The Social Dilemma’ and I urge you to watch this if you’ve not already. I realise that my system one had really taken hold and I was no longer experiencing my holiday, but instead something very different. Rather than looking at the sky, beautiful trees, wonderful greenery and experiencing the calm and fulfilling weather I was no longer present.
Once the hormone levels had dropped, I put my phone back in my bag and tried to relax back into the holiday…… that thing that we look forward to for years! I soon drifted back to the content I’d seen, which had filled my mind moments before. Trying to urge myself back into my holiday and become present, I decided to walk to the bar and get a nice cold beer. On my walk to the bar I was absolutely horrified to notice that perhaps 90% of the bronzed bodies around the pool were indeed using their phones. Now if I’d seen many of them with headphones in I might consider that maybe they were listening to an audiobook and actually switching off or leaning in to something worthwhile (*of course people may have been doing something more useful as I didn’t see the screens…. But I am not very hopeful about this). But this wasn’t the case. People were hunched over avidly staring into this small rectangle in their hand. I realised I wasn’t alone in my phone addiction. Often normalising behaviours can be comforting but in this case it wasn’t.
As a psychologist human behaviour is what makes me tick. I decided it was time to do little bit of research starting with myself. I walked up to my room in order to put my phone safely away and out of sight and reach. ‘I can do this’ I told myself. I picked up a notepad in the room and walked back down to see my family. On the route down, my demons started to kick in….. What if somebody was unwell at home and I needed to contact me? What if there was an urgent work enquiry that couldn’t be left for another seven days? The questions continued in my mind to arrive like buses at a coach park filling me with doubt about my actions.
I recognised that these were the clever strategies of a hooked mind. I decided to write these thoughts down.
Much of the work we do focuses on accepting our thoughts, recognising them, hearing them and not ignoring them. When we try to ignore our thoughts they can become more powerful and I certainly didn’t want this to be the case. I wanted to be free of my phone to experience my holiday. ‘Ah ha gotcha’ my brain shouts at me….’How are you going to take photographs without your phone?’ I wrote this down.
My informal research question to myself was ‘if I remove my phone will my desire to use it reduce?’. I decided to measure this through writing in a journal. I carried this journal around with me and whenever I felt the urge to check my phone I noted it down. I also noted down what thoughts were accompanying my urge to use my phone in order to encourage it.
The second half of the day one was surprisingly difficult and also surprisingly shocking because of how surprisingly difficult it was!!!!!!. The number of times that I automatically reached into my bag to grab my phone without even thinking was remarkable. I don’t even classify myself as a big phone user… I was clearly wrong.
Day 1; 56 conscious thoughts about checking my phone!
By the end of the second day I was noticing more. I was going for walks and engaging in my environment. Although I believed I was already doing this (with my phone) when I went for runs or walks, I realised that in the absence of my phone and the regular ‘checking’, I began thinking more deeply about life, projects and people. Without the tactical distraction of ‘checking’ I could spend the time thinking about and also reconciling challenges in my life.
Day 2; 36 conscious thoughts about checking my phone!
Day three I wanted to go for a run. I know that in order to motivate me I need to listen to good music while running. I wondered whether this was simply another powerful thought to engage me back in phone use. So my challenge was to listen to music whilst running and not access any other phone apps. Airplane Mode!!! This would make it possible, while still preventing any notifications popping up and emails pulling me towards them. And I could even use my camera to this was a revelation for me
Day 3; 12 conscious thoughts about checking my phone!
Day four and five came and went, and for the first time in too long I thoughtfully engaged and thrived in my time away. Something interesting also happened in these two days. Although I was still thinking about checking my phone it wasn’t having the same cognitive effect on me………. I felt like I had begun to unhook and unplug. I’ve always found myself on easy being able to be in the present. This experience made me realise that in the presence of a phone that was much harder for me.
Day 4; 15 conscious thoughts about checking my phone!
Day 5; 10 conscious thoughts about checking my phone!
Day 6 and 7……………… I forgot my journal! And no longer felt the need to notice my thoughts about my phone I was engaged in my holiday.
Will you switch off?
*System 1 “is the brain's fast, automatic, intuitive approach”. System 1 activity includes the innate mental activities that we are born with, such as a preparedness to perceive the world around us, recognise objects, orient attention, avoid losses - and fear spiders!
**Dopamine: Dopamine is a type of neurotransmitter. Your body makes it, and your nervous system uses it to send messages between nerve cells. That's why it's sometimes called a chemical messenger. Dopamine plays a role in how we feel pleasure. It has been described as our reward centre.
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